Did you know that there are a lot of people out there who don’t use lube? It might be because there’s a stigma that for some reason using lube means that you’re not able to get your partner turned on enough. Well, I’m here to tell you my friend that it’s simply not true. You can improve a lot of things in the boudoir with just a small squeeze from that little lube tube.
Here are seven ways to integrate lube into your bedroom routine today!
One: A Sexy Massage
After a long hard week, wouldn’t it be nice to feel your partner’s fingers glide down your back and neck, releasing all the stress in your body? I mean how many of us would be more ready to get down and dirty if the tension we’ve been carrying was slowly kneaded away? I know there’s a lot of people out there screaming me! me! right now. Starting out with a sensual massage will start to get the sexual tension starting to build between you and your partner, and with lube, it’s extra relaxing and sexy. So if you’re going to bring massage into the bedroom, grab some warming lube and start rubbing!
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Two: Step up your fingering and handjob game instantly!
A little warm lube goes a long way when it comes to handjobs and fingering. While yes when we start to get touched by our partners, our bodies react favourably, but a bit of lube would make this round of foreplay just that much better. Lubing up your hand and your partner’s penis will elevate every stroke and the same goes for fingering.
While I never endorse laziness when it comes to sex, lube does make everything a bit easier and it helps take things to the next level faster! This might be number two on this list but there are many ways to integrate lube when it comes to handjobs, as there are many techniques to learn.
Three: Use it inside of a condom
Say it with me, friends, safe sex is cool! It really is a great idea to protect yourself from unwanted diseases. While I know there’s a rumour out there saying that condoms ‘feel different’ and it makes sex not that great, that’s not 100% true. Sure, does it feel different? Yes. Can it impact your sex life and make it worse? Absolutely not. Unless your partner has a latex allergy, then that’s an entirely different ballgame. Grab some lube, squeeze a small amount into the condom, and voila! A new experience that will feel fantastic.
Pro tip: it’s even sexier if you lube up your partner with your hand first.
Four: Grind on your partner before penetration
While it will sound similar to fingering if your partner lubes up their hand and you grind against it, it will feel like experiencing a whole new world when it comes to foreplay.
How might you do this you may be asking? Have your partner get their hand slick and then place their hand under your vulva and labia while you slowly (or fastly) grind against it. The difference between fingering as well is that there’s no penetration. It’s like being on top during sex but a new twist!
Remember not all lubes are the same and it is important to check the make and ingredients.
Five: Use it when you masturbate
No matter what gender you are or your relationship status, taking time out of a busy schedule for you time is always important. Why not level up your solo game by adding a few drops of lube to your hands or vibrator for an out of this world experience. Sometimes masturbation can get a little routine, so try something new. A few ways to integrate lube into your masturbation may include using a warming lube or perhaps a tingling sensation lube might be the perfect addition to your rotation!
Six: Lube is always a good idea for anal penetration
Please if you’re going to have anal sex, lube up appropriately. There’s a lot of pain that can come from anal sex that hasn’t amply used lube to its full potential. And honestly, it makes everything a lot more pleasurable for all involved! Don’t be disappointed with your first time doing anal by leaving out a pertinent friend from the rotation. Lube up!
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Seven: Grab some before vaginal penetration
Ladies start shattering the myth that lube is only used when you can’t maintain your own lubrication. That ain’t it! Lube can take your orgasms from a six to a nine or ten (partner depending)! Though when it comes to vaginal penetration you do run the risk of it getting a bit too slippery down there so make sure to use it sparingly because you don’t want to lose complete friction.
So go ahead, experiment with lube, and start having more orgasms in your everyday life today!
Alex is a lifestyle writer that has been featured on online publications such as Thought Catalog, Teen Vogue, The Mighty, YourTango, Yahoo News, Medium, and Love What Matters. She published her first book in 2016 entitled “The Single Girl’s Guide to Living and Laughing (And Sometimes Loving)” with Thought Catalog Books. Her second book entitled “You, Me & Depression; A Battle of Heart and Mind” was released in 2017. Alex writes about relationships and sex.